There’s no shame whatsoever in admitting that you’re struggling to cope. Many people feel overwhelmed at various stages in their lives. Some end up dealing with it their own way, while others don’t really know what to do or where to turn.
This is a contributed post and does not necessarily reflect the opinions of Meet The Harris Family.
The first step to feel better is admitting that you’re struggling, even if just to yourself. When you’re ready to do something about it, you can read on for some more advice.
Speak To Somebody
A problem shared truly is a problem halved. Speak to somebody who you know won’t judge you. This could be your spouse, a close friend or relative, or if you feel ready, a professional. It’s wise not to talk to your kids about it – leaning on your kids for this kind of support forces them to grow up too quickly, and could be quite stressful for them. They are your kids, not your therapist. Speak to somebody who will listen, and could potentially help to guide you in the right direction using their own life experience or qualifications instead.
Figure Out The Source
There isn’t always a source of the pain. Some people just begin struggling with day to day life, feeling sluggish, and not finding much joy in the things they used to love. This could be stress, anxiety, or depression – and it’s wise to do something about it if you have felt this way for more than a few weeks. Visiting your doctor will be the first step to a diagnosis and feeling better.
However, you may have a good idea of something that could be causing this. If you’ve been taking on too much work, that could well be a reason you don’t feel great. Your first port of call in this case should be to take on less of it, and to speak with your employer so that they understand the situation. If you are suffering from true burnout, then getting a doctor’s note is going to be the best thing to do so you can take some time off.
If the source of your feelings is the loss of a loved one, then there are a few things you can do. Speaking to somebody, as outlined in the first point, is advised. You can also find ways to remember your loved one, such as commemorating them with bronze headstones, putting a bench in your garden, or even painting them. These things can help you to feel closer to them and may allow you to move through your grief.
Just Focus On Each Moment
Try not to think too much about tomorrow, next week, or next month. These thoughts can be overwhelming and add to the feelings of despair. Instead, focus on getting through each moment. You’ve already survived many moments reading this article. By focusing on the moment in front of you, you’ll become more mindful, and you’ll be able to do things that will help you feel better moment to moment. For example, what can you do to care for yourself right now? Perhaps it’s relaxing with a cup of tea, or reading a chapter of a book. Maybe it’s taking a nap, or watching Netflix.
You can’t beat yourself up. When you feel this way, simply getting through each moment is something you should be proud of. While you should feel free to stay in your pajamas all day and watch Netflix, it’s also a good idea to remind yourself that the little things really can help you to feel better. For example, getting dressed could change the way you feel for the whole day. Leaving the house and getting some fresh air will make a big difference. Try to strike a balance – don’t wallow, but don’t force yourself to do things you’re not ready for either.
Incorporate Healthier Habits As You Feel Ready
Sometimes, if all you can do is order take out, it’s better than not eating at all. Again, do not beat yourself up! This isn’t about being perfect. Just do your best to incorporate healthier habits as you feel ready so you can begin to feel better. Drinking 2 liters of water each day will ensure you’re hydrated and alert. Eating vegetables will make you feel better. Getting a little exercise should make a big difference too. Now, if you feel so bad that you can hardly leave the house or eat a thing, that’s another matter. This is how you know you definitely need to speak to somebody and get treatment sooner rather than later.
Spend More Time With People You Love
When you don’t feel yourself, it’s easy to isolate yourself. You can easily convince yourself that the people you love don’t understand what you’re going through, or even that they don’t care. This will hardly ever be the case! Spend more time with the people you love. Try to get involved in conversations and enjoy the company. Isolating yourself will only make you feel worse.
Start Journaling
Trying to incorporate good habits day to day can help to lift your mood. For instance, journaling can help you to get better in touch with your thoughts and feelings and give you an idea of what may be causing the way you feel, or what you can do to change this. Even if you just use bullet points to sum up the day, it’ll help. Each day, try to list at least 2 things you’re grateful for. This can help you to see that you really do have some good things going for you.
Share Your Story
Your story could one day help to inform and inspire others who are going through the same thing as you, or those who simply want to learn more about it. Getting comfortable talking about your struggles will make them less of a taboo, and will eventually make the world a better place. It’s about time everybody stopped demonizing mental health issues and those who have them.
