Some of the links included in this post are affiliate links, meaning, at no additional cost to you, I will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
NO MEANS NO: SPEAK UP AND SPEAK OUT AGAINST SEXUAL VIOLENCE
It Happens More than You Think
The most recent report noted that there were close to 63,000 sexual violence cases reported in youth under the age of 18. Authorities suspect that number only represents 30% of total cases. It blew my mind that so many people are hurt in this way. The reality is that it can happen to anyone, even you!
It was all fun and games until you said No. The only word you needed to say. The only feeling you needed to convey.Click To Tweet
There are Different Types of Sexual Violence
Anything posted and directed to you in a verbal, non-verbal, or physical manner is sexual harassment at minimum, but the degree of the behavior could be considered a more severe crime. That includes social media posts and DMs. Language used between coworkers or students around you or to you. Looks you get or gifts you receive that are unwanted. Touching or hugging you when you have made it clear that it is inappropriate. The list continues, but know that you have a say so with what happens to your body and others should respect it.
Friends will be Friends
When we are around people that we like, we tend to let our guard down. We believe that those in our circle will truly have our best interests in mind. Most friends will have your back, but predators will respond differently. They know this and they play off their relationship with you. I want you to recognize this type of peer pressure so that when you are in social settings you have a level of awareness. If you feel uncomfortable around someone you know or are close to, let someone know. Often, just speaking up provides a level of intervention that many victims to this crime are not aware of.
Under the Influence
Like I mentioned earlier, you need to consent and be in control of the decision that you make regarding your body. If you are under the influence of alcohol or drugs, you will most likely not be in the best position to make a sound decision for yourself. Because of this fact, engaging in sex under the influence of drugs and alcohol cannot be deemed consensual. This does not matter if you are under the influence legally or not. If you are a victim of sexual violence and you were under the influence, it is okay to speak up.
Your Past is NOT Your Reputation
Before the incident, you were not a virgin. That is fine if that was the choice that you made. However, your past is your past. It is not your reputation. Your choice to consent can vary and you can even choose not to consent to future sexual encounters with someone you’ve had history with. When I say that people should respect your body like it is a holy temple, I mean it. God blessed you with it and at the end of the day you know what is best for it.
Your voice matters, do not ever let anyone convince you otherwise.Click To Tweet
Speak Up and Speak Out Against Sexual Violence . We will listen! Do you have a story to share? Join the conversation using the hashtag #SUSOASV
Readers also loved:
Thanks for posting about such an important topic! Not many bloggers are willing to address this issue.
I know, it is a sensitive and scary topic. In my field of work, I just see so many cases and it is heartbreaking. Just trying to get the word out…thanks for reading! 🙂