Confidence is something we build as we grow. As a baby you don’t need to be confident, you don’t even know what it is! When a toddler begins to discover the world, they learn what actions makes someone pay attention to you. Then as an older child, you’re thrust into the world of school and planning your entire life. Now it’s 50/50 whether you’re going to develop the confidence to tackle these situations as you get older and older.
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So as the parent, let’s help our kids to be confident, and always encourage them to be outgoing enough to be comfortable with everything. When it comes to the future, you’re not always going to be around for your kids to lean on, so let’s make sure we’re always doing something to boost their confidence! Here’s a couple of tips for doing just that, if you’re worried you’re not able to do enough now and you’re looking for some fun ideas.
Always Remind Them You Love Them
Tell your child you love them every single day of the week; those words are much more important for a little one to hear than you might think! It’s an affirmation everyone can understand, no matter their age, and it’s the best way to put a boost in a kid’s step after a day of teachers shouting at them or plenty of arguments with friends.
And if you have the task of building self esteem in my autistic child, you’re going to need to use this kind of method more than usual. Autistic children have a different way to understand the world, and because of that, might never be quite sure whether you love them or not. So always take the chance to remind them!
Talk Through Goals Together
When you’re a child, you want to do everything. When you’re an adult there’s a good chance you’re still going to want to do everything, but you have the common sense and restraint to pace yourself and understand what you could actually achieve. So sit your child down when you recognize they’re getting themselves hyperactive over an activity or an event and talk about what they want from it. It’s good for them to be excited, but help them to use that energy productively.
No matter what age your kid is, they’re always going to have dreams. And of course you should always help them go after their dreams, but if they have quite a few setbacks or no means to accomplish a necessary goal on their way to becoming a world famous actress or an astronaut, sit them down and talk about this. Don’t let failure creep up on them, and don’t let them dwell all alone on the idea that one mistake is the doorstop to whatever it is they want to do.
Your kid’s confidence is important to build from day one, always help them out with it!
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I think it’s so important to let your kids know you love them. I never thought about it building confidence but it’s sooo true.
It really does, I feel like all children deserve to be loved! <3
as a mom of children with special needs (one is a 12yr old girl) and being confident is something I want them to be. thanks for sharing your tips
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These are great tips. I try to tell my kids I love them every day more than once a day normally.
Me too! I am nervous that one day my little girl will tell me not say it so much lol
Great post! I think that so often our words and actions are contradictory and this is terrible for a child’s confidence
I agree.
I agree, helping our children grow into confident adults should definitely be one of our parenting goals!
Yes, I agree and sometimes their environment outside of home makes our job difficult, but I am sure that our impressions on them will mold them and help them as adults.
I found watching how you word things is important too, always use positive words! Nothing is more a confidence booster than mom or dad saying they are proud of them for things!
That’s true. There is power in our words. 🙂
This is a great read! Telling your kids you love them is a definite must! Growing up in an Asian family who do not express their feelings quite often, I have to make a considerable effort to break the cycle and let my kids know I love them. Hopefully they will grow up more confident than me! 🙂
Oh wow, I did not realize that about the Asian culture. That’s cool you are trying to break the cycle. I know they love their mama!! 🙂